So IF you hate your job-(80% do) Why don't you quit? Too old? Too poor? Too scared? Too weak? What then?


According to published articles by Linkedin, and Business Insider, 80% of the American workforce are in jobs that they just hate...evident by just barely making it to work daily, rushing out like a bat outta hell at quitting time, hitting the snooze button, investing $0 dollars if anything into personal items to improve one's quality of work life and portraying an appearance of someone who just rolled out of bed, threw on whatever clothes and dragged their butts to work and at work talking about everything under the sun except work. When was the last time you took a course on your time that you paid for just because you wanted greater insight and desire to gain the career expertise you seek. Are you passionate about staying up to date, in sync with the latest trends, cutting-edge advances and what's happening in your line of work; with your days off spent hobbying & working on your job craft.

If this is you, and in all honestly-80% of us-fit this description and for those of you who are not, hopefully you love what you with a fiery passion and not just tolerating it , going through the motions, My question is why do people stick around in a job if it doesn't move them, lacks inspiration, non-motivating and probably pays poorly- WHY? I never gave it much thought because I've been blessed with doing what I love as a culinary chef with 20 years busting my @$# in business but it has never felt like work. Sure I've had days I was off game but I love bouncing otta bed and getting to work. IF my job ever did become 'work', I was on to my next bigger career move- if you ever met a chef, we get from the prep guy to the Executive Chef to top of the job at top places by not stagnating at places but keeping the fire rolling thru engaging destiny as I'm sure as well with many others. Now after 20 years, I am doing my business as a catering chef for onsite events coming up on 2 years since launching. I wash clothes and 4 out of 5 laundry baskets are all work attire. My decorations, tv shows, magazines, hobbies and free time are all about my craft-mostly.

So I always wondered what keeps someone in a job they just do for a paycheck? Not enough experience...going to college...someday you're going to do this or that...just trying to hang on for a justify it in your mind that its pays big bucks you won't get no place're too ole to get're too 'un-hireable' just say 'its a job' and get thru it... Again looking for feedback from those who use up their sick days and just eye that clock to get don't have to love your job-if you do then you're blessed and many just are content and tolerate their jobs.
So whats your take on how you feel about your job?

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Cash Flow
48 months ago

3 answers


Hi Anthony! I can't answer your initial question about individuals reasons for staying in their jobs but to help get the ball rolling, I will contribute that there are basically four attitudes that can become habitual ways of approaching our work and life that may be learned responses or just infiltrate slowly due to life experiences that have established a less than positive approach.
There are those who don't like what they are doing but they continue to do it because they believe they HAVE TO. A 'have to' life position creates an energetic stance of resistance and resentment and the experience that life is hard.
Those who don't like what they are doing and avoid doing the job with any impetus often harbor a 'GUILTY' stance towards life. They don't like the job and don't want to do it but they believe they 'SHOULD' want to for whatever reasons they have told themselves. Guilt is the price we pay to hold an inaccurate image of ourselves while consistently violating it by non-performance.
The third habitual comfort attitude is to avoid going after anything we really want by procrastinating, lack of preparation, lack of decisive action, etc. which creates a 'could have, should have, would have' IF ONLY stance ( if only I had a degree, was older...younger...smarter...knew the right people etc) that sets the stage for an emotional climate of regret and further disappointment.
The last comfort zone requires a conscious choice. It is that if we take on a job, career, profession, we commit to bringing our highest and best to the environment we are participating in. This means that if we are going to do the job, we make the decision to want to do it. It doesn't mean that we only do what we want to do, instead it is that we exercise the self-discipline to direct our energies fully and clearly so that we create the experience of inner satisfaction from full participation as we pursue external results.

Susan McNeal Velasquez
48 months ago
thats incredible...I have never thought about that way but reading what you said, it makes sense...almost scarry sense and oddly enough maybe good traits in the sense its an attitude that commits and won''t abandon, something good for today's relationships - ANTHONY MICHAEL 48 months ago
Thanks Anthony. Hopefully the information can be useful as a reminder to us all that there is no freedom without self-discipline. - Susan 48 months ago
Perhaps this is why it is called a JOB - Dr. David E. 37 months ago

Reasons could be different according to persons and countries.
In some countries is challenging to find a new job, not only a well paid one including benefits, but something else in general.
Persons could not afford to quit, maybe they are scared about this solution as somehow they have set up a comfort zone (even if they don't like the job), they don't want to be considered as job hoppers (again in some countries it is normal to switch to different jobs, in other ones is not), you don't have a beautiful exit or a B plan in place.

Paolo Beffagnotti
48 months ago
Too - too - too = grunts - Dr. David E. 36 months ago
Right, sum of too in general equal to grunt - Paolo 36 months ago
Right on! - Dr. David E. 36 months ago

In brief, while 80% of workers do not uniformly fit your exaggerated description of them, I am sure that there are a vast number who are dissatisfied with aspects of their work situations.

The reasons for remaining in one's unhappy work situation are highly variable and can include those you include in your headline, as well as others.

The bottom line is, people continue in unhappy or dissatisfied situations until they either decide to seek a new one or the employer makes the decision for them.

Michael Fruhling
48 months ago
Theory X and Y might solve this dilema. But, HR departments often just need to fill slots. - Dr. David E. 37 months ago

Have some input?